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I'm a Mum who has struggled with weight since having my daughter 24 years ago. Forever trying to find that one thing that helps to make weight loss easier.
Mind Power Series

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Monday, May 24, 2010

Children Need Positive Not Negative Talk To Succeed In Life.

Have you ever thought about the way that you talk to your children. I have been reading this book called The Power of Positive Talk by Douglas Bloch, M.A,  it is very educational for us parents, it makes you think.

Stop and actually listen to yourself one day. Are you giving negative talk or positive talk?
I realise now, that I am guilty of this with my daughter, not even realising how much impact it would have on her later in life.

When we're watching our children play sport, how many times have you heard a parent say to their son or daughter "what was that? You can do better than that or What do you call that, I bet your brother could do much better.
Instead of using positive words like- great shot, you better teach me that or I loved that move, you had him fooled.

Using positive words builds a child's character. Their self confidence and self esteem is built up immensely and they feel as though they can achieve anything.
This will later help them to succeed in their adult years. They will have more confidence when applying themselves to their work and when they get into difficult or hard times they will be able to work through it.
Problem solving will seem a breeze.

I'm sure that a lot of parents don't even realise what they are doing. But putting a child down or giving negative feed back can sometimes cause them to withdraw and maybe become depressed. Children that here negative words all the time lose their self confidence and think that they are not good enough and may even give sport away.
This then can lead into their studies, where they give up far to easily because they do not have the confidence. They believe that its to hard and theres no possible way they are good enough to work it out and why wouldn't they believe this when they have heard it all their life.

Remember all children would like to here is praise and encouragement. They want your love and understanding that they are doing the best that they can. Be supportive, not negative.
They will thank you in years to come. (read the book, it will change the way you speak to your children)

Happy Parenting......Happy Children.